So far, I have been talking about love secrets that increase your ability to be the godly husband. I want to add more today about love secrets.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent
We do not have a clear answer from the Bible that why God created human beings look different such as dark skinned, white skinned, red, brown, or yellow. We do not know why God created some people tall and some small, why God created some people have high IQs and some low IQs, why God created some people have very special natural talents, but some have not.
Because of these differences, some people live with inferior feelings and some have superior feelings, and sometimes, there are conflicts, battles, and wars. However, whatever we look different, whatever we are, God wants human beings to come to Him, submit to Him, vow to Him, and humble before Him. 1Sam 16:7, "Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."
There is a story of Philemon and Onesimus in the New Testament. Philemon was the Roman citizen, the rich and the slave owner. But Onesimus was the slave and lived for Philemon. Once, Onesimus ran away from his master to Rome and met Paul. Through Paul's teaching, Onesimus became a Christian. Paul sent him back to his master. And through Paul's letter, Philemon did not kill Onesimus, but forgave him. Later on, both of them attended the same church together. Onesimus overcame his inferior feeling because of his Christian faith.
Happiness is a choice
Abraham Lincoln said, “People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” When Jesus Christ preached His first sermon, the Sermon of the Mount, it contained the nine principles of happiness. He said, “Blessed are the pure in heart...Blessed are the meek...Blessed...Blessed...Blessed...Blessed”(Mt 5). The word Blessed translates, “happy.” No amount of striving is going to produce happiness. No amount of manipulation, control, or berating is going to lead to fulfillment. The less able you are to experience inner peace, the more you will require material symbols like a bigger house, faster car, bigger boat, or larger salary to satisfy your thirst for happiness.
Let your highest principles guide your life, and you will find happiness on the way. Orienting your life to creative __EXPRESSION__, the well-being of others, or the improvement of mankind will give you pleasure and happiness. Giving yourself to another person in their hour of need creates happiness. The Bible says, “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35).
You become a lover of life not by just taking a philosophical stance, but through a passionate commitment to integrate your personal growth with what you give away. It has often been said that we make a life by what we earn, but we enrich the world by what we give. You have the gift of happiness to give away every day. Ask yourself this question: “Am I truly happy?” If not, why not? The answer lies within you.
Feel great about yourself
The Bible says, “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Lev 19:18). It is certain that if you do not like yourself, you will not like your neighbor. There is a difference between being selfish and having self-interest. To be selfish is cyanide of the soul. To be interested in your self is intelligent behavior. It is in your self-interest to go to heaven, because the alternative is to be lost forever. That’s self-interest. It is in your self-interest to prosper, which is achieved in the kingdom of God by giving.
How do you feel about yourself? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see ugliness? Do you see beauty? Do you like what you see? Do you want to change what you see? Do you like to think about your future? Who are you? Every person on the earth is a unique creation of the hand of God. When you were born, the genius of heaven exploded. There is not another person on the planet quite like you. You have a destiny that no other person can fulfill. God has placed you on this earth for a purpose that no one but you can achieve. You need to feel good about yourself.
Over the years I have seen individuals, particularly women, who are extremely critical about their physical appearance. They are so unhappy about themselves that their misery translates into their relationships. That misery is transferred by osmosis into the life of every person with whom those individuals come into contact. Their romantic lives become merry-go-rounds of endless relationships, which never mature because the individuals do not feel good about themselves and cannot make other people comfortable with who they are. Ask yourself these questions: “Do I really like me? What are the changes I need to make to become acceptable to me?” If you see things you can improve upon, and you refuse to do so, you are only compounding your misery. Take action.
The love you refuse to give you lose
Israel is the vortex of the world tomorrow. It is the land of the Lord. Every significant thing that will happen from this moment until Christ returns to earth the second time is tied to the state of Israel and to the city of Jerusalem. One of the perpetual spiritual lessons in Israel is that of the Dead Sea and the Sea of Galilee. The Sea of Galilee flows into the Dead Sea. It continuously brings living water to a dead sea, one that is full of salt. Whoever swims in the Dead Sea, he feels literally just sitting in the water because of its salt concentration so intense. Nothing lives in it. It’s absolutely dead. Why? Because the Dead Sea only receives from the Sea of Galilee; it never gives. There is no place around the perimeter of the Dead Sea where it sends water to some other destination. For centuries it has been receiving the living water of the Sea of Galilee. Yet it is just as sterile today as it was in the days when Jesus Christ lived and died in the city of Jerusalem.
The love you refuse to give away will be lost to you. As your love develops, your appreciation of your own dependence upon other human beings will grow as well. The more love you feel, the more love you want to share. Personal growth and social contribution become woven into one relationship. Today there is a rising spirituality, sometimes imperceptible, but becoming increasingly more evident, a respect for the sacredness of every person, occurring because of the spirit of love at work through people. You will overcome old, negative habits and experience more love and pleasure when you learn to break through old barriers and push past resistances to new levels of spiritual strength and honest communication.